Talking about finances can be like talking about sex. Some couples are comfortable having explicit conversations about these topics. They are willing and able to be open and vulnerable, sharing their hopes, fears, desires, and expectations. But many couples feel uncomfortable discussing these topics and avoid these conversations altogether, despite having strong feelings and expectations.

In my work with couples, I often see how it’s not the absence of conflict, but the presence of consistent connection that predicts long-term relational health. I often remind partners that the strength of a relationship isn’t just tested in moments of conflict—it’s built in the quiet, everyday moments in between.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. However, the way we communicate during those conflicts can either strengthen or weaken the connection we share with our partners. Many of us believe we’re communicating effectively, but the real issue often lies not in what we’re saying, but in how we’re saying it.

Parenting is tough. Every parent knows that there are a million opinions on how to do it better. Some of these opinions are helpful, many are not, and others are just opportunities to doubt yourself and feel inadequate. Despite the best intentions, in the heat of the moment and when a crisis arises, parents often fall back on what is in their bones - what they learned growing up about managing crises - sometimes abandoning their own parenting values at the door. 

Anyone who has had any long-term romantic relationship can attest to the many challenges that accompany all the beauty and joy. Why is it so hard to hold on to the good stuff without slipping into squabbles, bickering, and frustration?  Even the happiest couples have disagreements and get on each other’s nerves, however, there are some important differences between the couples that occasionally get frustrated with one another and the couples who...