Talking about finances can be like talking about sex. Some couples are comfortable having explicit conversations about these topics. They are willing and able to be open and vulnerable, sharing their hopes, fears, desires, and expectations. But many couples feel uncomfortable discussing these topics and avoid these conversations altogether, despite having strong feelings and expectations.

In my work with couples, I often see how it’s not the absence of conflict, but the presence of consistent connection that predicts long-term relational health. I often remind partners that the strength of a relationship isn’t just tested in moments of conflict—it’s built in the quiet, everyday moments in between.