The phrase "forgive and forget" implies that both forgiving and forgetting are simple, mechanical tasks. As though letting go of a painful memory is as easy as closing a book and placing it back on the shelf. But the human mind is not built that way. We are built not only to remember, but to retain emotionally significant events, especially when those events involve physical or psychological harm.

It is not the lack of fulfillment of our heart's yearnings that leads to hopelessness, but rather the attempts to protect ourselves from our passion and our heartbreak. Far from not caring about our life, the life we yearn for is so precious that we would often rather suffer in hopelessness than risk the possibility of failing.